Bereavement And Grief/edit

BEREAVEMENT AND GRIEF 

https://www.mhanational.org/bereavement-and-grief

        LOSS OF LOVED ONES/

LIFE'S MOST STRESSFUL EVENT 

BEREAVEMENT/

"to be deprived by death."

-an initial stage of numbness

-no real order to the grieving process

-normal and common reactions to loss. 

DENIAL 

DISBELIEF 

CONFUSION 

SHOCK 

SADNESS 

YEARNING 

ANGER 

HUMILIATION 

DESPAIR 

GUILT

You may not

(Probably won't)

be prepared for it

-the intensity and duration

-how swiftly your moods may change

-one may even begin to doubt the stability / mental health.

-be assured that these feelings are healthy and appropriate and will help you come to terms with your loss.

-It takes time to fully absorb the impact of a major loss.

-You never stop missing your loved one, but the pain eases after time and allows you to go on with your life.

Mourning A Loved One

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(Wedded to;

Those moments)

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-Mourning is the natural process. One goes through to accept a major loss.

-may include religious traditions honoring the dead or 

-gathering with friends and family to share one's loss. 

-Mourning is personal and may last months or years.

-Grieving is the outward expression of your loss.

( involves a modicum of pain)

likely to be expressed;

-physically

-emotionally,  

-psychologically.

-crying is a physical expression, 

-depression/a psychological expression.

-very important to allow yourself to express these feelings.

OFTEN DEATH is a SUBJECT THAT IS 

-avoided, 

-ignored or 

-denied.

At first

-it may seem helpful to separate oneself from the pain,  

-one can't avoid grieving forever. 

-Someday those feelings will need to be resolved or they may cause physical or(Psychological) illness.

PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS  ACCOMPANYING 

GRIEF 

-Of all life's stresses, mourning can seriously test your natural defense systems. 

-Existing illnesses may worsen or new conditions may develop.

-Profound emotional reactions accompany acute grief

-anxiety attacks,

-chronic fatigue, 

-Stomach pain, 

-loss of appetite, 

-intestinal upsets,

-loss of energy

-sleep disturbances 

-depression/thoughts of suicide.

-An obsession with the departed

(lifetime depression/a kind of amortization against major depression in oldage/pays forward)

DEALING WITH 

A MAJOR LOSS

One's reactions are influenced by;

-the circumstances of a death, 

-particularly when it is sudden or accidental. 

-Your reactions are also influenced by your relationship with the person who died.

ANTICIPATORY GRIEF 

includes; 

-depression, 

-extreme concern for the dying person, 

-preparing for the death, and ----adjusting to changes caused by the death. 

Anticipatory grief gives the family and friends more time to slowly get used to the reality of the loss. People are able to complete unfinished business with the dying person (for example, saying "good-bye," "I love you," or "I forgive you").

https://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=26258

A CHILD'S DEATH/LIFE;

-overwhelming sense of injustice

-lost potential

-unfulfilled dreams

-senseless suffering.

-Parents may feel responsible for the child's death,  

-Parents may also feel that they have lost a vital part of their own identity.✔

( the safe / comfortable choice was taken away)

A SPOUSE'S DEATH;

-severe emotional shock, 

-potential financial crisis 

-may necessitate major social adjustments

-require adjust to single life  -maybe even return to work.

ELDERLY PEOPLE 

-losing a lifetime of shared experiences

A LOSS DUE TO SUICIDE 

leave the survivors with a tremendous burden;

- of guilt, 

-anger and 

-shame.

-Survivors may even feel responsible for the death.

LIVING WITH GRIEF

-natural to experience grief when a loved one dies. 

-The best thing you can do is allow yourself to grieve

-seek out caring people.

-Join support groups with others who are experiencing similar losses.

EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS

Tell others how you are feeling; it will help you to work through the grieving process.

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TAKE care OF YOUR HEALTH 

-Maintain/

-contact with your family physician

-eat well

-rest

_Be aware of the danger of developing a dependence on medication or alcoho

-Predators are looking for victims like you.

ACCEPT THAT LIFE 

Postpone;

-moving, 

-remarrying, 

-changing jobs or 

-having another child

Be patient;

-It can take months or even years to absorb a major loss and accept your changed life.

Seek outside help when necessary;

Holy Spirit

HELPING OTHERS GRIEVE 

-encourage them  to talk about their feelings of loss and share memories of the deceased.

-offer a simple expression of sorrow and take time to listen.

-Offer practical help

-Be patient

-Make yourself available to talk.

-Encourage professional help when necessary

HELPING CHILDREN GRIEVE 

-affecting their sense of security

-survival

-Often, they are confused about the changes they see taking place around them

-Limited understanding and an -inability to express feelings

-may revert to earlier behaviors

-invent a fantasy world

-seem insensitive

-pretend that the death never happened.

-angry outbursts or 

-criticism only deepen a child's anxiety and delays recovery. 

-talk honestly with children, in terms they can understand

-Help them work through their feelings 

-they are looking to adults for suitable behavior.

Some day the pain will lessen, leaving you with cherished memories of your loved one.