living in past trauma that is triggered by words

Acknowledging even my need to be right, and make someone else wrong, goes a long way toward letting the light in./

I used to try to engage, in a two-way conversation, the atheists, agnostics, trolls. I realize now I was obsessively doing this! I tried to talk over w/ them about alternatives regarding cynicism, rigidity negativity/ religion and spirituality. I learned that people in that situation are probably living in past trauma that is triggered by words. I think they really wish to beat the s*** out of a parent or other authority figure who has abused them in the past. I definitely got a sense that that was a pattern of behavior happening over and over again. "It" had taken over someone's life & couldn't be argued with or otherwise engaged. People who have been treated as objects objectify. It's a wound that I have witnessed in myself and somewhat healed. I can't fix anyone or convince someone with cognitive dissonance / denial. Now I'm looking at my need to try to beat myself up with these people. I might just have concluded there's an itch I can't scratch and I have to turn it over, for my own sake and sanity because what was impossible for someone like me IS possible or God MHO.